I just wanted to take a moment to share some of my experiences over the weekend relative to all of the tragedy we’ve faced over the past few weeks:
1. On my flight from Houston to Birmingham last week I was making my way back to the restroom. (We were on a regional jet with first class but only one facility in the very back of the plane.) I stopped to wait my turn next to a young black mother with her cute little baby about halfway back the cabin. He reached his arms out for me to hold him and I looked at her and said, “May I?”
And she responded, “Oh yes, he loves attention.” So I held him and cooed at him and did all the things you do with a baby. Shortly after, the man who was sitting across from me up front came to get in line as well. The reason I mentioned first class earlier is he was your typical first class passenger (older white man who gave the impression of being a tad bit snobby and not the baby type at all). The baby reached out to him, he looked at the mother and asked if it was ok and took him from my arms. They played and laughed and opened and closed the luggage compartments over and over to the baby’s amusement. When the plane landed the mother was having a hard time getting the car seat on the stroller so the gentleman and I waited with her in the jetway and I held the baby while he helped her secure the car seat. She looked at us with a smile on her face and said, “People can say what they want about the south — but this is southern hospitality. I’m from New York and I was nervous about being here but no one in New York would have shown this kindness. Thank you.”
2. On the way back from the beach to Birmingham for me to catch my flight we stopped at Cracker Barrel to eat in Montgomery. There was a white Sherrif’s deputy eating alone next to a large black family. The head of the family (a man in his 50’s) got up from his table and went and sat with the deputy and they had a long chat that was filled with smiles and laughter and concluded with an affectionate handshake.
3. There were lots of thunderstoms in Birmingham yesterday and the runway was literally a lake. When planes would land water would fly over the roof of the planes and cloud to ground lightning strikes were everywhere. My anxiety was at max level to say the least. I reluctantly boarded the plane because of nerves with tears in my eyes and found my seat next to a young black soldier on his way to Ft. Hood. I told him I was really nervous and may have to hold his hand. He looked at me and said, “Yes, that’s ok, I’m terrified to fly too.”When we took off we hit some pretty bad bumps and so I patted his shoulder and he squeezed my hand and we talked our way through it.
This is America; these are the race relations of most Americans. Helping each other — hand in hand — in all different shades of love and skin color. It breaks my heart the media is doing everything they can to convince us otherwise.
Stranger Who Got His Daughter Pregnant Told Him He Didn’t Love Her. But Never Thought He’d Ask Him This.
I’m a general manager at a car dealership. When my daughter was 17 she went to a party. At that party she met a man, whom she had sex with and got pregnant. After we found out she didn’t tell us who the father was.
When one Sunday afternoon many months into my daughters pregnancy I’m sitting outside enjoying the view and a iced tea when this old pick up truck pulls up. A young man jumps out of it.
Now for the purpose of the story lets say my daughters name is Stacy.
This young man approaches me and says, “Are you Stacy’s dad?”
I look up and say, “Yes I am, are you here to see her?”
He goes, “no sir I’m here to talk to you, can I sit down?”
I said sure, he explained himself an 18 yr old boy just finished high school not very book smart with no real future. I had a hunch where this was going.
He then said, “I understand Stacy is pregnant.”
I go, “yes she is.”
He said, “I’m the father.”
I replied, “figured as much, so whats going on?”
He said “well, I don’t love your daughter and shouldn’t have done what I did. However I’m soon to become a father without a good income. I know you run multiple car dealerships and one can make good money selling cars. I want to come work for you so I can make enough money to support my child and be a good father.”
I looked at him and said, “What kind of work would you want to do at one of my dealerships?”
He said, “I want to sell cars, I want to be a sales man. I hear you don’t need a degree and if you are willing to work long and hard hours you can make good money.”
I nodded and said, “Yes you can.” I then said “Now son you got some balls coming over here telling me you got my daughter pregnant when you don’t even love her and then asking for a job…”
He then said, “I figured this was my best option of finding a job to make enough money to support my kid.”
I said, “I want you to be at my dealership tomorrow in your Sunday best at 8 AM, do you understand?”
He said “Yes sir.”
I said “Now go, I’ll see you tomorrow.”
That was a good 10 years ago. He’s now a store manager and one of the best hires I ever made. He is also an awesome father of 2 now (he met and married another woman and had a child with her).
He shares custody with my daughter. Now I’m not saying he didn’t make a mistake, and I’m not saying that their situation is ideal.
But what I can say is that I admire the hell out of that young man for owning up to his responsibilities and being a real father. I know there are a lot of men out there who would not have done the same.
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Déjà was already an invaluable member of the Rancho Cucamonga Police Department in California, but she’s just proved her extraordinary canine powers yet again.
After a young girl was reported missing around 3 A.M., Déjà took the lead to find her. She was last seen with an unknown man who took her from her home. The pup and her handler Deputy Stone entered the woods surrounding the nearby mountains and spotted the girl’s purse as well as drag marks.
Déjà’s nose never left the ground as the pair followed the scent all the way to a solitary home. She led her handler right up to the front door and refused to leave; police found both the girl and her captor inside, and the man has been arrested for kidnapping.
Great job, Déjà and Deputy Stone!